Some say the future groom's early, "Just tell me when to show up and what to wear, and leave me alone, " and he leaves the work of the wedding the bride. It's not like a typical far as he was in the past few years. More and more people are getting involved in and enjoying the process of planning their wedding. Some people still think that the "girl thing"and not "type of thing." Give me a break! a wedding is "a couple of things" and should have equal participation of both the bride and groom.
Approaching your wedding as the two can give you the best results in less time. It's also a pretty good indication of how marriage will be. He answered many questions that will be important for marriage, issues such as:
Who decides? Are common decision or one you always have his or her way? Is one of you always right? (This means that the other always wrong). Do either of you usually have to agree just to get out of deadlock and get on with it? Is one of you "Boss" and other "Bossed?" Does that work for you?
Are management styles compatible? Do either of you micro-managing one of you use a broad brush approach and not to work for you? Sometimes it's very effective, becausewidely brusher generating creative ideas and micro - managercanwork out the details . It takes both. On the other hand, broad brusher can drive a micro-manager crazy, and vice versa.
Are you ready to yield on the expertise of others? Can you divide up the workload evenly, and not second guess each other, but believe that this will be done correctly and on time? What do you do when you have a big misunderstanding? Do you plan to work things out, to negotiate until we find a common ground of the contract? Do either of you hold grudge if the decision does not always go your way?
How to deal with money? Is one of you "stingy" with money and other impulse spender? Can you agree on the amount you can spend independently, without consulting the other? What happens if one of you does not comply with the agreed amount? How do you solve a problem?
Do you have similar likes and dislikes? Do you think that you almost always choose the same thing, even if they are not together at that time? Li, for example, generally like the same color, music and style? If not, you know and appreciate what others like? Is it all right for different things such as? If not, not one of you always have to capitulate or do you find ways to work which gives in now and who gives in later?
If, as you are closer to the wedding date, you will find that you are at each others throats and play the "blame game" or "poor me, the martyr, " a scenario, it is time to stop and look at the hard poduzetidobar your relationship. Marriage has many compromises for each of you. It requires give and take, yes and no, you and me in equal proportions. If the problem is the question of exhaustion or "jitters" that's one thing. But if you simply can not work together, take some time to think it over, even if it means delay the wedding. Some pre-marriage counseling can be helpful before proceeding.
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